Jenni Finally, Farley discusses her separation from Roger Mathews.

In an exclusive early preview for PEOPLE of Thursday’s episode of Jersey Shore: Family Vacation, Farley, 34, confronts the split on camera for the first time. In September of last year, after almost three years of marriage, she filed for divorce from Mathews, a topic she has steadfastly refused to touch this season.

Though they continued to spend time together as a family after the divorce filing, even celebrating their third wedding anniversary in October, their relationship worsened in December when Farley filed for a restraining order against Mathews following an argument between the two.

In the tape, Farley, 34, expresses her annoyance that their conflict is being played out publicly. She tells Nicole “Snooki” Polizzi, “I believed quiet was the greater good.”

“That is for your children,” Polizzi concurs. “Who wants this garbage to be made public, anyway? I believe he does.”

Farley adds, “As awful as our relationship went, I kept my mouth shut because that’s what you’re supposed to do.” The greatest betrayal, in my opinion, is his decision to go public.

Mathews, 44, said in a series of videos uploaded on Instagram on December 14, including some taken in the back of a police vehicle, that Farley was “hysterically yelling” at him and threatening to contact the police after an argument about her return to work. Mathews said that he phoned the police himself, and when they left, he recorded a podcast with a buddy before returning home and going to sleep without engaging with Farley. He said that he was taken from his residence by police at 2:00 a.m. after being notified that Farley had called the court and filed a restraining order against him.

A Toms River Police Department representative confirmed to PEOPLE that officers were summoned to the couple’s residence at roughly 1:00 a.m. “for a civil concern.” According to the spokeswoman, a temporary restraining order was issued, and Mathews was transported to another place.

When “certain incidents happened,” Farley told her representative the next day that she, “thought it was in her best interests and the best interests of her children” to contact the authorities.

The statement said, “She is pleased to be a hardworking mom who provides for her children.” “Although we have decided not to speak further, we will add that a court found in Jenni’s favor last night and granted a temporary restraining order. Please respect Jenni’s request for privacy so that she and her children may be protected now.”

What Jennie Said on this?

“I did not want to discuss it publicly out of respect for my children,” she says of her 5-year-old daughter Meilani and 3-year-old son Greyson. In my opinion, the release of those films was a really low blow by Roger.

“Everyone was criticizing Jenni for keeping the children away from Roger, which is not true,” Polizzi argues. “After filing for divorce, Jenni allowed Roger to remain in the home so he could be with the children. Yet, he would engage in conflict in front of the children. Then, having had enough, she phoned the police and demanded he leave. She never said that Roger cannot see his children.”